How do i act confident without looking arrogant?? I know 1attracts but never wanted to start a relationship b4

Hey guys wonder if u could help me, i am 31 years old n have just lost 80lbs, hitd gym n scrapped the nice food(well cream cakes)! I am chuffed wiv that, the reason i did it was ive never had a real relationship and i really want a attractive girlfriend, i was unhappy wiv myself b4 but now feel strong. I am tall (6'5)n look muscularly built now, apart from a little bit of hairloss, am good-looking. I've been out a few times and approached a few women, but no success as yet. I think i come across cocky- i think they think im a bit of a player, im honestly not, i long for a relationship, my openers are like 'dont undress me with your eyes...its cold in here' or 'hi, were you just NOT looking at me on purpose to play hard 2 get? or were you actually..... just not looking at me'. Ive had some good chats n get em laughin but back out of goin for a kiss! How do i know when? Or should iask 4their number first? How do i no if their in2 me? Sumtimes they just stare at me n it goes quiet! HELP!!